Discovery comes after fear

by Taisiia Onishchenko (Ukraine)

A leap into the unknown Italy

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When we are doing something for the first time- we are always facing with a fear of unknown. And this fear divides people into two groups. In the magority-fear overcomes a wish to travel. But for someone fear adds spicies into life, makes it brighter. "Brave ones always have a blessed fate"- this phrase become my moto. For the first time I was traveling alone. Without money, but with a purpose. With no one in the emergency contacts' list, but with enthusiasm and a passion to discover. It was hard, but it was the best I even done. We are starting to travel because of different reasons. What about me ? I was just bored with everyday routine and had no wish to return home for holidays. So I said "Chiao" for my new adwenture. I had no clear vision of my direction or program. But I had a friend in Milano. Here is a copy of my first message to him after five months of silence "Hey, hope you are doing well. I am going to come to Italy and travel a bit around. Could you host me for some time?" Damiano said "yes, of course" At first I was going to stay in Milano for four days. But after a while I understood a strong connection between me - brave Ukrainian girl, and Damiano - hot Italian guy. We were getting cliser to each other, talk ng in love, for a very first time for me. While we were discovering unbelievable landscapes of Como and Lecco, architecture of Torino and Verona we were discovering each other's cultures as well. Dating with foreigner is different from all the examples and roles models which we have learned from childhood. We have had different visions on family relationships and watching movies, food and sex. It is not a story with sad or happy ending. It is not one more story about immigrant who forget own country to live in better economical conditions. It is not a story about love on distance. It is a story which is still in the process of writing. Because everything is different when you are ready to discover the world to risk everything that you have to find out what you really need and who you really are. I dove into unknown when I passed the doorstep of the house of traditional Italian family, when I was looking into the eyes of a fear to ski, when I was lying into the bed with a young man who does not understand the customs of my culture. I believe that when you have a choice to do something at the first time or step back. You should try the first variant out. Why? Because life is too short to be afraid to do something wrong.