Misperception

by Madina Myngaiymbek (Kazakhstan)

I didn't expect to find Philippines

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Misperception When the one saves up its monthly scholarship and collect money to organize the very first INDEPENDENT trip with friends, that one feels eventually more joy from the travel. The more joyful it turns out when the one has invested around one thousand and five hundred dollars to arrange this voyage, but in the end, has gained not only pleasure, but experience, friends, new values, and warm memories to narrate its grandchildren. Indeed, that one is me. In this essay, I would like to describe my adventures and fascinating holidays in the Philippines where along with sunburn and burse under my eye, I have understood the meaning of ‘fraternal people’ and has changed my conventional view on feminism per se. So, I had the very first impression on the Philippines, who might suppose, on a plane flying to Manila, when not a tall, but giant American took a look of me and loudly noticed: - You are tall. Are you mixed blood? Suspiciously were looking top and down to find out whether I was on hills or not. According to standards of a country where I am from, I have never been classified as a tall, but rather a girl with average body shape and height. Therefore, when I heard it firstly, my grey substance calling brain has stuck for a minute and could not rehabilitate from such an unexpected compliment. Later during the flight, he shared his stories about the Philippines, how he met his wife, and make me understood that there he feels at home. He was my Columbus trying to verbally explore the country and, to some extent, prevent from cultural shock. As a joke he told I probably will feel as in ‘Gulliver’s travel’ story, surrounded by tiny people, but with huge hearts. I would not go into detail of the astonishing nature of the Philippines since this task out of my abilities. Thus, I would straight move on to people which I met and the lessons that I have learned from them. I am from Kazakhstan, and to my deepest regret, there is still a presence of reluctance towards neighbor countries such as Uzbekistan, Kyrgyzstan, and Tajikistan. Interestingly that this sort of antipathy has appeared not based on serious incidents likely discrimination or human rights violation, but on, as old as the world, ancient rumors from ancestors. I was grown up repeatedly saying how cunning and mean Uzbeks are, and I dare assume that Uzbeks have prejudices on us, how lazy and rude we are. I am giving this information to let you grasp deeply, what kind of contradictions and resentments we (a bunch of Kazakh girls) felt when accidentally met a trio of Uzbek guys in a remote island. We have stayed at the same hostel and since the island was tiny we constantly bumped up in every corner. The first contact was established when I was struggling to roll my wheel-broken luggage through bumpy and sleety after the main road. One of them dared to start the conversation first and extended a hand. As for a person studying in Europe where feminism is flourishing and help a woman is considered as something abnormal, this simple gesture has not seemed as helping a weak, but rather humanity. I better skip the process of getting closer and will emphasize that these guys have shifted my position on feminism and introduced it with a ‘peculiar type of feminism’. To be more clear, the mentioned before countries are renowned for adhering to the traditional model of gender positions where man is earner while a woman is a housewife. Despite that, in Uzbek culture is embedded a notion that man and woman have the same responsibility and duty within routine life and there is no division of labor basing on gender. For these reasons, these guys have treated us equally but gentlemanly. I can assure you there was not even a hint on flirt or sympathy. Afterward, they have explained their nice attitude by the fraternal feelings which they did feel towards us. This feeling has provoked an elder brother's state and willingness to support and protect. Regarding this behavior, I have realized how irregular prejudices lay a foundation of potential tension and intricate the world unification against global issues.