Starting Life In My 30's

by Maria Reina Flaviano (Philippines)

A leap into the unknown Philippines

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For years, I have dreamed of traveling the world but for someone like me with a weak Philippines passport, it could have just remained a dream. I was content with working, saving, traveling for a few weeks and then going back to my life as a corporate employee. Every time I come back to my so-called home, I feel as if I’m missing something deeply. I just know that I am not where I want to be. And in one of my trips in the Philippines, my life was changed. It was just another domestic trip but this time I decided to join a yoga and detox program at Bahay Kalipay Retreat Center located on an island called Palawan. In this week-long retreat, I met travelers from other parts of the world who are facing the same dilemma as I do – to leave an old comfortable life to pursue the unknown. A Swedish girl just left her grand life to live a minimalist life of volunteering, a German CEO was in the transition of leaving his job for a start up, a French girl just ended a relationship and is now rediscovering her life, and other stories of endings and beginnings inspired me. I wasn’t the only one and I realized I wasn’t crazy for leaving my stable job for something I am uncertain. I got back home now knowing what I don’t want but I continued working everyday. I stayed in my old life for the next months, saving more money and preparing for a new chapter in my life. In August 2019, I filed my resignation letter after 8 years of service in the company. Everyone was shocked because I wasn’t quitting my job for a competitor. I was leaving my job to be jobless and to pursue the dream I had for years. It was also an unusual move for someone like me in my early 30’s to leave my career when everyone else is fighting for a promotion or a new role. For a traditional country like the Philippines, this was the age a woman was supposed to get married and have kids while maintaining her career. Most of my peers have just gotten engaged, are newly married or pregnant. On the other hand, I was single and have just ended a career I have worked on for years. However, I am not like them and I already knew a long time ago that I didn’t belong here. Thirty years of age is considered old to start a new life, at least in my country, but I don’t want to waste another decade of a life that wasn’t for me. It was the perfect time to leave. I sold my belongings and left everything in the Philippines. I kept two bags of necessities, my passport, savings and started a journey with no return ticket nor end date. I hope for it not to end until I have experienced the world as I should, not following any bucket lists, but only experiencing life to the fullest with each new destination. “But I have a weak passport, it's difficult to get a visa, it will be expensive...” These were my doubts which I erased, otherwise, I wouldn’t set off on this big journey. I have no idea how things will turn out but I trusted that life is good. I began my journey on the mountains and rice terraces of the Philippines and then flew to Thailand and hitchhiked my way to Laos. I stayed in places I like for as long as I can while figuring my place in the digital nomad world. It’s now March 2020 and I have been traveling in India for a month with the love of my life. I have started the journey as a solo female traveler with no intention of even meeting someone. However, life surprises anyone who are open and willing to take that big leap into the exciting unknown.