I met her in Blantyre.
We were a group of climbers traveling through Africa, in for the adventure of a lifetime. Secretly, we hoped that maybe there would be someone special there for us, too.
And there she was, her auburn hair falling just above her shoulders, framing a set of rosy cherub cheeks, piercing green eyes, and sun-kissed skin.
“Jase, would you like to go with me into the city tomorrow?” she asked.
I felt like I was about to win the lottery. Over the moon, I tried – probably pathetically – to hide my enthusiasm.
The next day we took the short ferry ride into the city of Dar es Salaam, and spent the day touring about, gathering items we would need before our trip out to the magical island of Zanzibar.
We wandered through ancient markets, brimming with the fresh catch of the day. The jostling swell of humans pushed us closer together like leaves floating on ripples, destined to meet. Her eyes gleamed at me over her shoulder as we wove through the crowd.
We met a group of friends later and took a motor rickshaw to our campsite. She sat on my lap the entire way, a blitz of African landscape blurring by like a tripped-out music video. I felt an intoxication that had nothing to do with the scenery.
I still couldn't believe my luck. I used to stare at her like a tired Bedouin does a mirage.
Late at night, we wandered the beaches of the Indian Ocean – the taste of salt on her lips, the bioluminescent material glowing and crashing about as we tumbled in the waves.
On the final night of our trip, the air felt heavier. The anxiety of having to say goodbye loomed in both our minds.
“You should come with me…” I said, convincing her to continue our adventure.
Later, after over a year on the road and twenty or so countries, it was “You should move to Canada with me.”
And when she did, other suggestions followed – other reasons not to part.
I would love to tell you that it all worked out. We eventually both made choices of “me,” rather than “us”.
To this day, I carry a picture of her in my wallet. Old grains of dust have sullied the creases, but not the life of adventure we had.
We need this romance. We need these memories we keep banked in our back pockets – the final grain remaining from a fistful of sand.
When I look at the photograph, I think of her hair blowing back as we cruised in longtail boats in the Andaman Sea; I think of the year we road-tripped to California just for a change; I think of the time our tent was washed away in a flood in central India. I think of how sick she got in Pakistan and how I tried to nurse her back to health, and then in Laos, how she repaid the favor.
Mostly, I think of two young souls, completely caught up in the moment – willing to risk it all for love and the road.
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